It’s true. I’ve allowed myself to become Mrs. Bennett. Recently, my daughter had the privilege of playing the most coveted female role ever, Elizabeth Bennett. As I sat there (bursting with pride, I might add) I found myself fascinated with Mrs. Bennett. She’s such a fun character to laugh at…that is, until you realize that you’ve become her!
The first characteristic I noticed in poor Mrs. Bennett is that her only ambition is to see her children married well. I must admit that as my children are approaching marriage age I have found myself often dreaming up imaginary romances for them. Unfortunately, I have directed their eyes to many an eligible batchelor/batchelorette rather than causing them to focus on God. I have prayed for my children’s spouses, whomever they may be, and I don’t want to ruin any of the plans God has for them by distracting them from what they should be focusing on: God’s desires for their life.
- Work on your own romance, don’t imagine one for your children. I wonder how happy Mrs. Bennett could have made Mr. Bennett if she had redirected some of her energies spent on the romances of her girls to her own marriage.
- Continue to place the hands of your children in the hand of God, not in the hand of a prospective suitor/suitee.
Next, I noticed that Mrs. Bennett’s nerves were always shot. Whatever happened in the Bennett home, she was either in spasms of terror, the depths of despair, or squealing with delight. Consequently, her husband and adult children and her entire neighborhood never took her very seriously. Unfortunately, I feel it incumbent upon myself to inform you…that I have found myself highly emotional at times. Proverbs 31 speaks of a woman who is clothed in dignity. This woman is a very sensible woman, not moved by her own circumstances, but easily moved in compassion for the circumstances of others.
- Clothe yourself in dignity. You have no reason to be flighty and fretful if you are trusting God.
- Be easily moved in compassion for others, while allowing Him to control your emotions for your own situations.
Mrs. Bennett is about as discreet as Howard Stern. She doesn’t follow any protocol, and her outbursts of emotion are an embarrassment to her entire family. She drinks too much, eats too much and talks too much. The only thing she doesn’t do too often is think. How often have I spoken before thought! I am sure that I have brought embarrassment to my family and myself more times than I care to remember
- Speak in such a manner as to bring honor to God and those around you.
- Act as though you are preforming for an audience of One.
- Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Phil. 4:6
- Luke 12:25 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?
- 1 Peter 5:7 casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.
Though Mrs. Bennett is a rather likeable character, she is not to be admired or taken seriously; and certainly not to be imitated. She, in fact, is almost the direct opposite of the Proverbial woman. God’s Word transforms and changes us, where we can not change ourselves. Therefore I will endeavor to allow His Word to change me into His likeness….even when I’ve been looking a little like Mrs. Bennett.
You can also check out my daughter’s post on Why Every Woman Wants to be Elizabeth Bennett.
7 thoughts on “How To Avoid Becoming Mrs. Bennett”
What a fun piece! I think there’s probably a little of Mrs. Bennett in all of us.
I agree with Nancy. There is Mrs. Bennett in all of us, though some of us keep her well hidden.
What an honour for you, though! 🙂
I’ve read Pride and Prejudice several times and have watched several versions but I never saw Mrs Bennett in this light! Yes, like her I have imagined worst case scenarios too!
KD–your daughter is beautiful. Which play is this from? looks like a Jane Austen? (sorry, not sure who Mrs. Bennett is)….
anyway, I can see why you’re proud.
That is one of my all time favorite books! I’ve not thought much about her character before but you describe her so well. Thanks for the reminder of what a godly mother looks like. Blessings!
oh my goodness. I’m well on my way. thanks for making me look in the mirror!
I couldn’t resist, being such a Jane Austin fan! I grew up in a household with my grandmother and mother – and there was a Mrs. Bennett feel with all these women (aunts, et al were even more prominent in my life as a result). My boys might think they live with Mrs. Bennett but they have absolutely no clue to how they do not!
I love “continue to place your child’s hands in the hands of God” – that is my mothering goal!!!
Thanks for a message delivered with such a delightful vehicle!